Giving a compliment isn’t as easy as you would think for some people.  The many baby announcement, engagement and wedding announcements and more simply get some people down.  Some will call is pure envy.  Others will say that’s just bizarre.  However, it is very real.  It happens on and off of social media.  According to Forbes, “Researchers at the University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine recently conducted a study about the effects of social media habits on the moods of users. The research determined that the more time young adults use social media, the more likely they are to be depressed.” Knowing this data is all the more reason for all of us to practice admiration. Putting more positivity out in the world is sure to come full circle at some point.  Again, you never know what someone is going through good or bad.  Therefore, you never know what causes their reaction to what you have going on in your life, good or bad.  As the old saying goes, “Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”

Strike Up a Conversation On Someone’s Social Media Post.  

  • Let’s face it, life is busy.  The best way for us to network or catch up with each other is via Facebook.  In my book, if I see you on Facebook, you’re good and I’m good too.  I know you’re alive and well.  Yet, we can all do a much better than just see how each other is doing on social media.  Chime in.  Leave open ended comments to engage with your friends and family.  Just saying “that’s cute” doesn’t help the connection grow.  It begins and ends the discussion.  Perhaps if we proposed more open ended comments to each other on social media, then the positive methodology would just keep on giving – kind of like an AOL chat room in 2001.  Examples can be:  “How was the beach that you guys went to?  It looked beautiful!  My family and I were hoping to make a trip soon.  Any advice?” 

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others.

  • IT IS SO EASY TO DO AND WE ALL DO IT.   Keeping up with Jones is a syndrome that should be medically documented.  It is hard to get over.  There is no special medicine or magic remedy.  It takes practice and discipline to live differently.  There are several ways to conquer this issue.  In 2015, I stopped shopping for a year.  I used to be the girl that bought a new outfit for every occasion and a whole new wardrobe for vacation.  I stopped.  Therefore, when “KUWJ” tried to creep in during my daily Instagram scrolls, it was easier to not compare myself.  If I didn’t have that brand new outfit that Mrs.Jones had, oh well.   When I was having some body image issues, I turned to plus size model, Ashley Graham’s book to be empowered by the body confident queen.  The book helped me not focus on being the size 2 I was yearning to be.  Lastly, fasting is always an option.  Take away the things you think you need, and you’ll find that you don’t need them.  It will prohibit the inclination to compare because there isn’t anything to compare.  You’re good with just you.

Share Some Positive Affirmations With Somebody.

  • My friends and family know they might get a random text from me at any given moment.  It may simply say Good Morning or I love You or I Miss You.  My facebook friends know that I comment on posts consistently.  I share countless posts.  I love on my family and friend as much as I can even if it’s once a month.  Putting out these small gestures goes a long way.  It says to the ones you care about that the channel of communication is still there.  Pick up the phone if you have time.  I tend to use the time I sit in traffic as my time to talk to friends and family.  Host a gathering at for your friends. Say yes to that dinner or happy hour you’ve been putting off.  Giving is receiving.  Learn that.  Imprint that and live it.



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